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June Gathering and NAME CHANGE

Posted in education, events, health, kink / BDSM, piercing on May 21, 2012 by Pleasure Forum Australia

Greetings Pleasure Lovers

As hopefully most of you know, the June gathering of Pleasure Salon Melbourne will be its last under the name of Pleasure Salon Melbourne.

After June 5, we will be operating under the new name PLEASURE FORUM AUSTRALIA.

Big thanks must go out to Christian Vega for the inspiration for this name, and also to Brian Ward who is orchestrating the web change over to our new site which will go LIVE after June 5.2012.

There will be a new Facebook page for you to like too, so please keep an eye out for these changes as they come.

For details of our final gathering as Pleasure Salon Melbourne, we invite you to join us for a night of wonder as we present an:

Introduction to Kink and BDSM

Tuesday June 5. 2012.

The realm of Kink and BDSM has been gaining not only popularity but increasing notoriety as a valid and exciting form of erotic expression. No longer the realm of the mysterious and entirely forbidden, more and more people are finding themselves drawn to the arts of this kind of pleasure and arousal.

Pleasure Salon Melbourne’s Introduction to Kink and BDSM is a night for newbies, novices, the curious and respectful to come along and listen to Melbourne’s finest BDSM educators talk at length about their craft, the attraction and how to do it safely, consciously and with the highest regard for love and care.

We’ll be looking at

  • how / why BDSM serves people as an erotic pathway to pleasure and fulfilment rather than just titilating ‘stories from the dungeon’.
  • We’ll consider how people can develop their own agency around this approach to pleasure, what the benefits and potential pitfalls are, and how to avoid them.
  • We’ll look at some of the common misunderstandings around what this kind of play is and isn’t, and encourage attendees to seek further information and training if they’re keen to take their knowledge a step further.
  • We’ll discuss how people can develop a relationship with this aspect of their  erotic -self and what some of the roadblocks might be to letting themselves” go there”

Whether you’re looking to attend Kink play parties, or are just wanting to experiment at home, this is a participation-free night of information and mingling for those who have little to no experience with this world, but have always wanted to know more.

When: Tuesday June 5th

Where: LOOP Bar. 23 Meyers Place. Melbourne CBD

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Time: 7.30

Cost $10

Our Presenters ( In their own words)

Sado BJ is well regarded around the Australian fetish scene as an expert in rope bondage, flogging and general impact play.

As co-owner of Melbourne fetish icon Eagle Leather, BJ’s accomplishments as a passionate advocate of the fetish and SM scene in Australia are wide and varied.  Through BJ’s career, he has focussed on sexual education and presented the majority of Eagle Leather’s workshops and seminars over the last 7 years; which culminated in him winning the award for “Australia’s Best Sex Educator” at the ErosShine Awards 2011, and Eagle Leather taking out the title of “Australia’s Best Independent Adult Store”.

His workshops centre around the education of fetish enthusiasts in everything they need to know, tending towards his favourite kinks – bondage, impact play and electric sex.

Bella

“Bella has been around in the scene since the early nineties, and a professional Piercer and Educator with The Piercing Urge since then too.

Bella has presented a range of skillshares for Pleasure Salon, Adrenachrome, and Melbourne Leather Pride, including Sharps for Sensation, TemporaryPiercing for Play, Rough Body Play, Microbranding, Superglue and Staples, Chastity Piercings, andthe latest skillshare From Finger to Fist – Anal play for beginners, that shepresents with her boy Paulus.

Training body-piercers now consumes most of her working life. She created and runs The Piercing Urge Training Center which reflects her fun style and passion for safe body piercing activities.

All of her classes and skills will be available from July at Melbourne’s newest specialty piercing studio – Piercing HQ. A kink and sex friendly studio developed with boy Paulus.”

Play favourites:

Flogging

Caning

Spanking

Cutting

All Sharps

Anal Play

Face play

Breath play

I like speaking about the responsibilities both players in a scene have in producing a scene that “works” for all.

“Do Me” submissives shit me to tears.

Scene etiquette and manners

The equal value of “both” Tops AND bottoms – can’t have one without the other 🙂

Mistress Electra Amore

Is a dedicated and passionate fetish and BDSM educator to the professional realm of the industry.

Classified as a senior with just under 18 years of hands on experience working as a professional Dominatrix, Mistress Electra A’more is the owner of the spectacular  Adelaide professional play space – The Fetish Palace, where with a stern hand, mischievous lads and gents undertake an assortment  of obedience  training that is catered to each individuals desires.

Mistress Electra A’more is also one of Australia’s main trainers of the up and coming generations of Professional want to be Mistress’s, switches and submissive ladies.  With an iron fist and nearly two decades of knowledge, Electra guides the willing ones through the necessary  training to become a well-rounded and experienced professional.

May Gathering. Alternative Relationships

Posted in education, events, health, kink / BDSM, open relationships / polyamory, relationships, safer sex, swinging on April 21, 2012 by Pleasure Forum Australia

Greetings,

Well after the mammoth events that were Tristan Taormino’s seminar and workshop, PSM is back at LOOP bar next Tuesday night May 1st, at 7.30 with what I’m sure will be a compelling panel presentation on Alternative Relationships.

We all had a blast at Tristan’s events, and for those who missed it, Tristan kindly gave permission to have part of her seminar recorded, and it can be heard by following the link under our “Media” page to the right. Thanks to Dean Beck for making this available.

Tuesday May 1st. Alternative Relationships

Relationships and communication are often a forgotten part of the sexuality dynamic. Titillating images or instant gratification are often more accessible and for many people, or more enjoyable than the potentially complex realities of processing emotions and negotiation that go along with being in a relationship.

Our panel for Alternative Relationships, will be hosted by Cyndi and  will be made up of  experts in the field, people with real life experience negotiating different kinds of relationships; why they do it, how they do it, and why it works for them. They will examine in detail alternatives to the monogamous, pair-bonding relationship many of us engage in by default, including:

  • how to negotiate boundaries
  • desires
  • fantasies
  • safer sex
  • family and society at large
  • and how they carved out a life for themselves that is both unique and fulfilling.

Their areas of expertise cover, but are not limited to bisexuality, polyamory, open relationships, swinging, and the D/s dynamic as a relationship and a lifestyle.

Our panellists:

Lyndal and Andrew Coon

Chantelle Austin

Anne Hunter

Sur Jack

As with all PSM events, we welcome people of all orientations, genders and backgrounds to come along, listen and share your experiences of a life when pleasure is important.

When: Tuesday May 1st

Time: 7.30pm

Where: Loop Bar.  23 Meyers Place. Melbourne CBD

Cost : $10

The venue is intimate, so we encourage people to arrive early for a seat, and a pre panel mingle to warm up.

Proudly supported by Take Care Out There

Tristan Taormino at Pleasure Salon Melbourne. April 2012

Posted in anal, art, education, entertainment, erotica / porn, events, kink / BDSM, open relationships / polyamory, politics, queer, relationships, special events, straight, women on March 8, 2012 by Pleasure Forum Australia

Pleasure Salon Melbourne and Cyndi Darnell  (creator and founder of PSM) are thrilled to present

 Tristan Taormino ( USA)

for two nights in Melbourne 

Both events require PRE PURCHASE. See links below for access to our tickets through Trybooking.com.au

Tickets can be bought for each event separately or come to both events for a discount

Both venues wheelchair friendly. PLEASE email for further details about this

Wednesday April 11. 2012 

Public Seminar

303 Sydney Road ( formerly The Beach)

Brunswick

7.30 pm

Tristan Taormino will take you on her personal journey from activist undergraduate to law school reject to struggling writer to author, Village Voice columnist, On Our Backs editor, sex educator, and adult film director. She’ll reveal the pleasures and pitfalls of a career that revolves around sex.

Hear about her first foray into porn on and off camera, what led her to form her own company, Smart Ass Productions, and become an exclusive director for Vivid Entertainment, one of the largest adult companies. She will share her definition of feminist porn, what she hopes to accomplish with her films, and the challenges she faces in the adult industry and in her professional career as a sex educator. She’ll dish all the juicy details of her adventures along the way with swingers, strippers, dominatrixes, drag kings, porn stars, and even Howard Stern.

Tristan Taormino is an award-winning author, columnist, sex educator, speaker, and filmmaker. She is the author of seven books: Secrets of Great G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation, The Big Book of Sex Toys, The Anal Sex Position Guide, Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships, True Lust: Adventures in Sex, Porn and Perversion, Down and Dirty Sex Secrets, and two editions of The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women.

She is the editor of 23 anthologies including Take Me There: Trans and Genderqueer Erotica and was the founding editor of the Lambda Literary Award-winning series Best Lesbian Erotica. She’s written for a multitude of publications from Yale Journal of Law and Feminism to Penthouse, and served as editor of the magazine On Our Backs. For nine and a half years, she wrote a bi-weekly column in The Village Voice. She runs her own adult film production company, Smart Ass Productions, and is currently an exclusive director for Vivid Entertainment.

Tristan has taught hundreds of classes (on everything from negotiating relationships to female orgasms) at conferences, community events, and retail stores and she frequently lectures at top colleges and universities. Tristan has been featured in over 200 publications and appeared on dozens of radio and television programs.

She runs three websites: www.puckerup.com, www.tristantaormino.com, and www.openingup.net

AND

THE EVENT “”MAKING OPEN RELATIONSHIPS WORK ” IS NOW SOLD OUT

The following night:

Making Open Relationships Work

A workshop with Tristan Taormino 

Thursday April 12. 2012

Level 10 / 225 Bourke St Melbourne

7.00pm

THIS EVENT IS NOW SOLD OUT

Do open relationships really work? How do people create nontraditional partnerships that are loving and lasting? Tristan Taormino, relationship expert and author of Opening Up, shares some of the key principles that can help your open relationship(s) succeed.

She’ll discuss common issues and problems-from “new relationship energy” and time management to jealousy and agreement violations-and ways to address and resolve them. Tristan will offer tips on communication, negotiation, and boundary setting, as well as how to cope with change. Learn how to get to the root of jealous feelings and transform them by embracing the concept of ‘compersion’.

Whether you’re a newcomer or veteran to the world beyond monogamy, come discover strategies to help you nurture and grow your open relationship(s).

 

 

New Venue and November Gathering

Posted in art, events, health, kink / BDSM, men, queer, straight, tantra / spirituality / ritual, touch, trans, women on October 30, 2011 by Pleasure Forum Australia

Well, It’s been a long time coming, but we’re back to see out the rest of 2011 with a bang.

Our next gathering will be Monday November 7th at our brand new home

Tony Starr’s Kitten Club,

Level 2 / 267 Little Collins St. (CBD)

 (Look for the lime green door.)

Since previous host venue 24 Moons shut its doors, we have been looking for a new home to host us, and the good people at Tony Starr’s
Kitten Club have kindly offered their premises to us. Fabulous food, full menu and cocktails, we are thrilled and honoured to have access to this wonderful new space. Sadly, this venue is not wheelchair accessible.  We are still open to suggestions for a new home, so please send us your ideas for places that

  • serve food and liquor
  • have a space for us
  • have stages, mics, projectors etc.
  • are wheelchair accessible
  • and in the CBD

NOVEMBER GATHERING

As you may have been following, we are revamping PSM’s format starting with our November gathering. November brings you 2 special
presenters and a flurry of shenanigans prepared by Cyndi and Christian for your delight. Door prizes a plenty and more interaction for you all.

Summer time start is now 6.30 pm for a 7.15 first presenter.

PRESENTERS;

Jessi Lewis

Melbourne performance artist Jessi Lewis joins us for a presentation like no other.

Exploring what it means to be only 22 and HIV positive, in a world where the death of face to face flirtation is imminent after the rise of Grindr, & what this new technology means for his generation while weaving this in through his own personal story of performance, gay beats, paying rent and moving to Melbourne at age 18.

Having performed Australia wide, Jessi is thrilled to bring us excerpts from his dance pieces, and engage in a Q & A with our audience at PSM.

Melbourne Rope Dojo

Our feedback has told us that you have all been VERY keen to know more about rope play and we have found you one of Australia’s best rope
instructors; Melbourne Rope Dojo!

The head instructor at the Melbourne Rope Dojo is Scott, one of the most experienced practitioners of Shibari outside of Japan. Scott started studying Shibari in 2004, which lead him to visit Japan starting in 2009 to continue his studies. He has been to Japan three times now to study under his Sensei, Osada Steve, and one of Osada Steve’s teachers, Yukimura Haruki-Sensei.

Whilst experienced in all aspects of Shibari, Scott has a particular love of newaza, or the intimate and connected tying typically performed on the floor. For Scott, the connection that can be achieved through rope is unique and forms the heart of Shibari. There is therefore an emphasis at the Dojo of learning how to obtain this connection.

Scott will be providing a demonstration of his work, along with a full suspension demonstration and a history of Shibari (Japanese
Rope Work).

Where:

 Tony Starr’s Kitten Club

Level 2/ 267 Little Collins St CBD

When:

 Monday November 7th

Doors:  6: 30 pm for a 7:15 start.

 Full bar and meals available

Cost $10

July Gathering

Posted in erotica / porn, events, kink / BDSM, men, queer, relationships, sex work, straight, women on June 16, 2011 by Pleasure Forum Australia

Our June gathering of Pleasure Salon Melbourne  went off with a bang as Christian and friends wowed the crowd with their saucy,  humorous and touching films about sex workers by sex workers. Door prizes from Bliss for Women, FECK and Adult Matchmaker marched out the door with more to come at our July Gathering. ( see details below)

As always HUGE thanks to our speakers, our fabulous attendees…  (that’s YOU) and of course the gang at our sexy host venue 24 Moons.

JULY GATHERING

Erotica, sexy, steamy, and a little bit naughty tonight we will titilate your tastebuds with what we do, let you see into the world of how we do it and why.

With our varied backgrounds and influences, we all have a story to tell – it’s just that the telling might take you on a twisted journey or two …. ready for the ride?

Come along with erotica author  KL Joy & her friends and discover the world of erotica.

KL (Kyra-Ly) fell into writing accidentally about 7 years ago. Having been out and about on the BDSM Melbourne Scene for a number of years, it took her own Catalyst of being dragged along to a private play party to prompt her to begin writing. She self published that first book Catalyst: Stories of Awakening in 2009 and took it to the BDSM community that had inspired her. The support she got from with in the community was fabulous, but the surprising market were the housewives of suburbia who devoured that book and went on to look for others! To their delight, and many others, the second book Desire: Stories of Secret Longing is soon to be released!

Geoffrey Knight has been writing novels for 12 years, but found his greatest success when he switched from traditional mainstream genres to writing gay male erotica 4 years ago. In that time he has written seven gay fiction titles, two of which reached number one on Amazon’s Gay Fiction best-seller lists in the U.S., France and Canada. His latest gay best-seller, THE CURSE OF THE DRAGON GOD, will be released in the U.S. early July, and will be launched in Sydney later in the month.

Eva Sless is a Melbourne-based freelance writer who specialises in sex-journalism. She is a former (although still occasional) sex worker who began her writing career with a “Belle Du Jour” type column in Australian People Magazine. The column, Sophie Loves Sex, highlighting some of the more quirky and positive sides of the sex industry. With a blend of humour and a down-to-earth, chatty tone, Eva’s column was one of the most popular and longest running of its kind. Currently, Eva is a regular contributor to Mother and Baby magazine, providing useful information and humorous anecdotes for new parents about sex and relationships.  She is currently working on  her own book based on all the sex-related experiences she has had.

Aimee Nichols is an award-winning author whose erotic fiction has appeared in a number of anthologies including The Mammoth Book of Best New Erotica 6, Got a Minute?: Sixty Second Erotica, First Timers: True Stories of Lesbian Awakening, Sixteen of the Best,and Ultimate Lesbian Erotica 2006.  Her writing has also appeared in magazines and online.  She was an editor of Eroticus magazine, and has always related more strongly to Rizzo than to Sandy.

WHEN:  Monday July 4th
Doors open for drinks, nibbles and mingling at 6pm
Speakers start at 7.30

WHERE: 24 Moons. AC/DC Lane. Off Flinders Lane. Melbourne

$10 at the door

See you there

May Gathering.

Posted in events, health, kink / BDSM, men, queer, relationships, sex work, straight, tantra / spirituality / ritual, touch, trans, women on April 13, 2011 by Pleasure Forum Australia

Our April gathering covering the big questions about Swinging,  proved to be a very popular night. Thanks again to our fab host venue 24 Moons, and our  guest speaker Chantelle Austin who gave away copies of her book, along with a personal coaching voucher valued at over $300! Congratulations to all our lucky winners of Chantelle’s prizes, and our other gifts from Bliss 4 Women.

Also, be sure to check out the page about 24Moons Wheelchair Access under our ‘pages‘  listing, should you require wheelchair access.

As I write this it’s wet and cold outside….a perfect time to get all comfy and tuned into our May presentation.

An exploration of Tantra, Spiritual Sex and Expanded Erotic Consciousness

Our May presenter, Uma, joins us from Brisbane. She has spent most of her working life in the pleasure industry, earning her living as a Sacred Intimate while exploring different approaches to sensuality and sexuality. There are many names for these sacred teachers and erotic explorers- Tantrika, Dakini, Sacred Prostitute, Sacred Intimate. All of these titles are relevant to her work and she wears them with pride.

Uma has been trained in Tantra, Shamanism and Taoism and is a Certified Sexological  Bodyworker . She has found her path in life teaching people of all genders and sexual orientations the art and mysteries of sacred sexuality, and is thrilled to bring her knowledge and passion to speak in Melbourne for the very first time.

Along with her partner, she started studying the Tantric arts 8 years ago as a way to bring their relationship  closer together . It ended up being much more profound experience than either of them could have imagined, which continues to lead them today through an ever-changing exploration of a mystical world of sensuality, heart connection and the Divine.

Uma’s presentation will  explore and explain the history of Tantra as a spiritual philosophy in ancient India and how it is as relevant, important and meaningful  today as it was in days gone by.  Drawing on influences from other spiritual disciplines including Taoism from China and Shamanism from the Americas, Uma will give an overview of how these ancient secrets can be applied to modern-day sexuality and enhance contemporary sexual relationships between all orientations and genders.
Uma’s presentation at Pleasure Salon Melbourne will cover topics including:

*What is sacred sexuality and Tantra?

*What is conscious sexuality?

*Why practice sacred /conscious sex?

*The role of a Sacred Prostitute historically and today

*The kind of people who practice Tantra and Why

* Tantra / Spiritual sex as a complement  to alternative sexual practices ( including solo sex and BDSM)

*How to bring consciousness and the Sacred into your own solo -sex life, and with others.

*Creating a pan-sexual , sacred sexual  community that includes practices from breath work to tantric massage to conscious BDSM  and sex magic.

Where: 24 Moons

Serving Drinks / Nibbles and Dumplings

When: Monday May 2nd. 6pm- 10 pm

 

Speaker starts at 7.30pm

$10

April Gathering 2011

Posted in events, kink / BDSM, queer, relationships, straight, swinging, touch on March 19, 2011 by Pleasure Forum Australia

March’s birthday celebrations were a  an absolute hoot with our fabulous presenter Maureen Matthews from Bliss 4 Women.

 Four lucky guests won fabulous door prizes, including a delicious Njoy Pure Wand and a set of Comstock films, all courtesy of Bliss 4 Women. We’re also thrilled to tell you that Maureen left behind a lot of goodies for us, so keep your tickets upon entry for fab and fun prizes over the coming months. ( of course if you can’t wait that long and would like your own selection of Comstock DVDs or Njoy toys, they can be found at http://www.bliss4women.com/ )

And now……. April…….. as we turn to the cooler months, here’s a little treat to warm you right up!

 

The Who, What, When, How and Why of Swinging!

Chantelle Austin’s presentation at Pleasure Salon Melbourne will be an informal introduction to swinging and swinging relationships.  As a relationship coach, swinger and author of “The Essential Guide for Adventurous Couples who want to explore Threesomes, Foursomes and Moresomes”, Chantelle answers the questions people are afraid to ask.  And since she can talk as easily about sex, sexuality and swinging as she can about what to put on the grocery list, her presentation is guaranteed to be open, honest and quite candid!  Be prepared to hear some personal stories along the way too.

With a depth of professional and personal experience, Chantelle has been on Nova FM, Today Tonight and The Morning Show, as Australia’s number one relationship expert in this area so we are privileged to have her present at Pleasure Salon Melbourne.

Whether you’re just curious about it, currently considering it, or have never heard of it, come along to get the real insider info that no one else dares to talk about in public!  This is a rare opportunity to get up close and personal (but not too personal) with the lovely Chantelle.

Topics covered will include (but are not limited to):

  • What kind of people decide to engage in threesomes, foursomes and moresomes
  • What swinging is in the 21st century
  • The common misconceptions about swinging and swingers
  • When is the right time to explore swinging? How to know if your relationship is ready
  • How to get the ball rolling – beginning conversations
  • Why couples decide to swing and why others might consider it
  • You’ll also have the opportunity to “Ask Chantelle” any burning question you have with a Q&A session.

WHERE : 24 Moons.

AC/DC Lane. (Off Flinders Lane)

WHEN: Monday April 4th. 2011

Doors; 6pm

Speaker: 7.30 pm

$10